Talk A Lot?

Total strangers will talk your arm off telling you things you don’t want to hear.

It amazes me.

Yesterday doing laundry, I met a woman and now I can tell you about her family, her vehicle, her plans and her age, without myself having said a word.

You don’t even have to share, just listen.

I wonder if this is because we (RVers) spend so much time alone that when we encounter someone who will listen we take advantage and tell all.

This from Quora

why people talk a lot is because they have a huge storage of thoughts which was created when they were alone. And when the storage capacity is overfull the thoughts need to come out, t his makes them talk a lot and mostly about the things they had in their mind before.

Seems there are all kinds of talkers and reasons why we talk so much, here are some notes I thought interesting from an article I read on by Deborah Grayson Riegel

  1. Talking about yourselfResearch shows that when we talk about ourselves, our brains release dopamine, the pleasure hormone, so we’re immediately rewarded when we do so. People keep gabbing because they are addicted to that pleasure
  2. Talking to show how much you know. This, ironically, tends to undermine rather than build credibility. It also has a negative impact on our likeability, one of the key factors in how we evaluate people.
  3. Talking out of nervousness or insecurity. Our ability to self-manage shrinks when our anxiety grows
  4. Talking to fill the silence  most people experience silence as something to avoid–especially in conversation. 

Talk less ! Think more !

I personally don’t know anyone who thinks they talk too much, and so far today (6pm) I have spoken not a word.

One thought on “Talk A Lot?

  1. You were always a listener
    I talk too much, and I know it.
    Being on my own all the time, might be a reason, but I like to listen to who ever I’m with.
    I like people.
    Maybe that’s the reason.
    I do try to keep quiet..
    You hit home on this one.


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