I’ve been very busy in my new life in Adkins Texas.
A quick recap of the last 6 months
Awhile back I decided to do something about my single status and joined a dating site for silver singles, I met a very nice guy, you remember Colorado man, it didn’t work out for us fortunately, because after that discouraging episode I got back on another site and met Richard in June. We wrote and talked on the phone until SEPTEMBER WHEN I DECIDED TO BITE THE BULLET, and move to Texas while keeping GG close by just in case I needed to skidaddle. No skidaddling happening here. I now live in a lovely home a bit larger than GG, she could easily fit into my dining room! This is a photo of a bit of my living room.
I’ve had fun rearranging everything, rearranging Richards life, his furniture, his Knick knacks, and trying to make it feel like home for us….adding lots of plants has helped me feel less homesick for my friends in Caballo.
Charley fits right in, hasn’t worn a leash since we got here. But the best part of the move is not the large beautiful home, the best part is definitely the man. Generous, gracious, kind, loving, all describe my Richard. I am very fortunate and do my best to deserve my good luck and am happy to say that he feels the good luck is his.
That’s what I was told on September 7. I should has said, come get me. But I was shocked and scared, which was just what he wanted, he said I could could get a lawyer or he could help me. It was a dramatic and devious plan he had for me, and I was distracted by everything else going on, the move, the sales and THE move. I was to tell no one or it could impact my case of money laundering and fraud.
Can you imagine? So how did all this come about? Let me tell you and warn you because I’ve found out that this is not unusual and happens to us older citizens very often and if caught up in their lies there is little hope of recovery.
It all started with an email notifying me of a charge on my Bank of America charge card of $900 . Did I make this charge and if not call this number. I had not so I made the call, first mistake, I should have called Bank of America to clarify.. the call was answered by a man possibly Indian sounding who asked if I knew this person who’d made the charge or knew a email address, I did not. He informed me that I’d either been a victim of ID theft or was complicit in money laundering and my social security number was used to open boa bank accounts in TX, CAL and NM.
Then a Mr Wilson from the”social security “ got on the phone to tell me my account was red flagged and I would shortly be arrested that the Truth or Consequences police department had an order to arrest me, but that he had put a hold on it during his investigation. I could get a lawyer and go to court or the ADR could help me resolve and investigate the case. I was told various times to not tell anyone as that could involve them or look like I was hiding information.
Of course I was in tears.
I was to account for every dollar I had, first by removing it from my bank account which I gave them all the information they needed, innocent that I was! I was to go to my bank and remove all my money, but my bank is not located close by nor is a branch atm, so I went to Walmart and was only able to remove $800, thank god! He stayed on the phone with me from home to Walmart and then sent me to a place where there was a BIT COIN MACHINE WHERE I RECEIVED A BAR CODE ON MY PHONE. AND I PUT MY MONEY IN IT.
I was told the money would be put in my new account with my new social security number. But I needed to withdrawal the rest of my money! I had also told him I planned to travel and was selling my car. He wanted those funds as well. I went home to think. I decided to use the rest of my money to pay some bills instead of withdrawing it. When I told him what I’d done I didn’t hear from him again until the next day when he called to see if I’d sold my car! I had not because I didn’t have the title. Then I told him I knew he was a con artist and that I’d reported him to the FBI and anywhere else I could. He assured me I was wrong, that it was all in my head and that I would be arrested, finally I said, bring it on,
And that’s my sad tale. Embarrassed to admit I was so taken, in but if someone reads this and questions the next too good to be true, or anything similar to my story and reports it to authorities it will be worth the embarrassment. There seems to be no recourse for me, I reported it to the local police without a response. My banking will be more complicated for a while, my credit cards will question each purchase I make., I will have to check my accounts frequently, a real change for neglectful me.
My daughter tells me I’m too trusting, I chose to believe that no one chooses to cause me harm, my eyes have been opened. There are some real assholes out there, watch out!
The studio is sold, I’ll believe it when it rolls away but a young couple is getting the money together as I write this now, they expect to take it not far from here and live in it! I put it on Facebook and have had about ten calls for it, I didn’t expect it, it’s really a good deal for them and a relief for me.
Sold my car too! I need to wait for the title to arrive and fix a small brake issue this week, do my errands then call the buyer to come to pick it up.
Monday I have an appointment to get GG ready for travel, pick up my art at the gallery and off we go to Adkins Texas, 10 hours driving to finally meet my man Richard.
No worries, he has been vetted by friends and family and especially me and comes out true, honest and thoroughly lovable. I’ll have a good space to work on my brushstrokes and won’t miss my studio at all.
We’ll drive up to meet my family in Dallas area, I’ll fly to the wedding in South Carolina ,and return to Dallas and finally home to Adkins with either my sis or son to meet my new Home Sweet Home. We are so excited about these new possibilities!
Getting rid of my stuff has been a joy, I’ve never felt so light and free of the weight of Stuff. Giving it all away brings a smile to the face of both the receiver and me, hoping I’ll be remembered as a generous friend not easily forgotten…plus I wrote cards with my new address on them!
JP has been a great help to me during these days, surprised? All good, forgiven and forgotten, he filled up his dumpster with my junk saving me a dozen trips to town with trash. And shared a few glasses of wine and conversation. I’ve made friends and met some fine people while living here and hope we keep in touch, of course I’ve invited them all to visit!
Opening new chapters in your life can both scary and exhilarating. So do you chose to be scared or chose exhilaration? it’s either the dumbest thing I’ve ever done or the smartest, I chose to be exhilarated.
My studio is up for sale and when I finally get it cleared out it will be gone. My art supplies, except for my good paints and a few things, go to a friend’s granddaughter, a budding artist. Everything else must go as I have promises that on the other end of my travel there is a studio being prepared for me with new supplies as needed
This time frame is getting close, once the studio and my car are sold, nothing really keeps me here..except to gift some stuff to friends .Rather than tow my car in a trailer ($1200) I’m selling it and will look for a car in Tx
We haven’t met face to face yet!
that was supposed to happen when I went to Dallas in late September , now we agreed that a face to face is not necessary because we’ve shared so much already, he reads here so you know he knows all of me! It’s a nine hour drive from here to there, longer in the rv. I am keeping GG, my security belt, if all does not turn out as we expect, I’ll keep on keeping on traveling light.
time is passing, and we want to enjoy the time we have, we’re both in good health, mutually open to this new style finding a partner, feeling fortunate we found each other. He is my trophy dude.
I should probably thank Colorado man for dumping me! He made me want more. More love, more companionship be part of a couple again, so although it was painful at first, and stupid secondly, I wouldn’t have met mr. wonderful or have the opportunities available to me now.
Keep me in your thoughts and send good vibes this way, please and thanks!
Finally getting some rain here! I’m drying some mini tomatoes, Not sure why but I have the idea that added herbs and oils to the dried tomatoes with garlic could be yummy so I’m experimenting couldn’t be bad right?
Listening to country music lately preparing for a trip to Texas in my near future. But before that I’m thinking about a detour to Mexico because so many neighbors have had good results with inexpensive dental care. I may do that asap! save thousands
Later entry next day or two…….
Wondering what comes next.
Listening to tapes and videos about the hazards of immunization, nutrition and intuition and today got my free tarot cards that I have no idea what to do with but seemed to go along with everything else happening around me!
Fasting today on a smoothie I made with yogurt protein powder basil, raspberries spinach flax seed and kale. Not real tasty but Charley and I drank it all and nothing else but walnuts and some yummy pomegranate dark chocolate candy I discovered that absolutely must be good for us…..but not for Charley.
I’m doing a lot of positive thinking these days because I sense change is in my future. Positive change if I can trust and believe all I’m told, it’s what’s written on the wind, its a gust of fresh air and a new rainbow in the eastern sky. Okay I don’t know where that came from! I did see a rainbow this morning!
A new opportunity presents itself, I’m ready for change, I’ve closed one door for another to open. But it depends on so many factors I’m not in charge of so I can only be myself and hope that I can share the life of another free spirit chosen for me.
My plans change from day to day, I know what I want to happen, I want to be in love and be loved again truly and trusting and honestly. I’m ready to turn the page and start fresh with a new plan for my future hopefully not alone but if alone ready to create a new page in my diary always learning something new about myself and this world I’ve created. Something I just read…
If you are looking for someone to change your future, look in the mirror!
I’m looking deeply into other states of mind, intuition, astrology and even ordered some tarot cards which I won’t know what to do with, just opening my mind to other realities without censoring anything looking more closely to see if I’ve missed something useful, some unexpected knowledge that might benefit me or someone else.
Zacbushmd.com/blog, this man was recommended by CO man and is the best thing Ive gotten from him, besides fixing electrical gadgets, I highly recommend this blog to inform yourself about the state of our world and humanity. And what can be done to save us from a dying off of our planet earth.
I can hardly believe him, Am I expected to forgive him? Am I stupid? Am I so lonely that his behavior is acceptable? no, No, No!
He says the fact that I didn’t need him while redoing, repainting GG made him unhappy so when another woman offered to drive back to CO to help him with cleaning out his rv he said sure thing and left with her. No matter that I didn’t know about this person, no matter that I was confused and crying for days. No matter that I had offered to go with him to help him, no matter at all.
I guess I expected more from him because of his background, I expected honor, Truth, sincerity and I got none of that. Now he’s sorry, very sorry because that woman didn’t turn out to be helpful after all and he ended up bring her back home, neither feeling friendly toward the other.
I told him I thought he must be a narcissistic fool, to love one day and the next be totally over it with no feeling left for the person supposedly loved. I told him he was an ass hole, he agreed.
Told him I could forgive him, I thought him foolish to think we could go back to being as we were, even friendship was unlikely at this point. He cried, I did not, I’m over him, disappointed in him, he should move on as I am.
What do you think about this development, certainly unexpected and uninvited.
He left me, we were barely friendly when he left me, yet he was always ready to help me as my friend and he did, as a friend, and yet he left me
And now what does he expect by coming back?
I have nothing left for him, maybe that friendship he expressed when he left me, that might work, but I’ve learned about his personality type and of relationships within the type and that’s not acceptable to me now.
I’m thankful that I took the time to understand what happened. He’s a man who can be a good friend who loves you one day and the next, you’re just someone he knows.
He should just keep traveling
But I am curious. I’m curious to know how everything back home turned out when he got there as he never communicated how it all went. So I’m curious as a disinterested friend might be.
I’m very content right now, I have a developing relationship that I believe is healthy and promising and nothing is going to change that.
Do you ever do dumb things, I am especially careless in one regard, my bladder health. I’ve written here before about IC, a condition I’ve had for many years, A mostly stable conditionbut then I do something stupid and it flares up to remind me that I have a sensitive bladder
The past two days I’ve been working on all the 4 inch ceramic tiles that I removed from GG, I’m sure I must have 100 tiles and I wanted to use alcohol inks and resin.. I have a very good respirator. One day I spent the day in the rv because too hot to make them outside or in the studio, alcohol fumes in the rv without good ventilation was stupid and to confound further I did the same in the studio the next day with the resin. So by afternoon I was in bladder hell, and today will be unpleasant. I did it to myself! Using the respirator is not comfortable and would have probably made a difference in how I feel today. You may wonder, toxic fumes affecting my bladder? Absolutely!
I discovered a better way to finish these tiles. Instead of painting directly on the tiles, I’m using the inks on a large sheet of yupo paper that the inks glide over, then cut the papers the size of the tile. Then varnish, no more dealing with the resin, because they didn’t turn out well, these are pretty cute but still need to add backs clean up the edges, make a hole for ribbon on the wood squares.
About the move, I change my mind every day. I’ve decided to go to South Carolina for my granddaughter ‘s wedding, can’t miss this event, it’s in October so I will drive with Charley to leave him with my son or sister and fly out of Dallas. Spend a couple days in SC return and spend some time in Dallas before making the long drive home. When that is completed I’ll see about My move, probably to Truth or Consequences before Christmas.
All is well on the singles site, haven’t met anymore idiots, a couple possible meets soon, all good.